Boost Empathy with the Meisner Technique

In today's fast-paced world where being “busy, so busy, reallyreallybusy” is often celebrated, it’s easy to overlook the importance of slowing down, being present and truly listening.

The Meisner technique, a method commonly used by actors to get their focus off themselves and onto their scene partner. This elicited genuine and spontaneous reactions to events happening in the present.

While the Meisner technique is typically associated with acting, aspects of it are beneficial for anyone wanting to boost their listening skills and build deeper connections with those around them.

Here’s a simple exercise from the Meisner technique that can help improve your ability to listen…like, really listen. Unlike meditation techniques where breath is a focal point and your environment or surroundings fade into the background, this exercise encourages you to stay rooted in the moment.

First, find a comfortable place to sit.

Bust out your tassled meditation cushion if you have one, but it doesn’t matter if you’re sitting on the floor, on the couch or in your parked car.

Second, close your eyes and….listen.

Sounds easy, right? Start by zeroing in on one specific sound in your immediate environment, like rain on your roof, a plane flying overhead, a faucet dripping or birdsong. Concentrate on just that one sound for as long as is comfortable for you. Dial down the volume on other sounds that may occur.

Third, consciously expand your listening to include other sounds you hear.

Like a radio station, try dialing your attention from one sound to the next. Pausing and listening to sounds individually. What can you hear? Listen to the footsteps of your upstairs neighbor separately from the sound of your cat maniacally scratching litter out of his litter box.

By focusing in on these specific auditory cues, you’re effectively training yourself to be fully present and actively engaged with the world around you. This exercise helps you filter out extraneous distractions and focus on the present moment, facilitating better listening skills and empathy.

Learn more about Sanford Meisner and the Meisner Technique